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The Greatest Gift….is one you give the self.

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The treasures that can be found outside of you can’t even compare with the treasures that can be found inside of you. Rumi 

“You wander from room to room Hunting for the diamond necklace That is already around your neck!”

“If you knew yourself for even one moment, if you could just glimpse your most beautiful face, maybe you wouldn’t slumber so deeply in that house of clay. Why not move into your house of joy and shine into every crevice! For you are the secret Treasure-bearer, and always have been. Didn’t you know?”

“Everything in the universe is within you. Ask all from yourself.”

“Why are you so enchanted by this world, when a mine of gold lies within you?”

“You go from village to village on your horse asking everyone, “Has anyone seen my horse?”

Think less. Feel more. Rumi

“Reason is powerless in the expression of Love.”

“Put your thoughts to sleep, do not let them cast a shadow over the moon of your heart. Let go of thinking.”

“Only from the heart can you touch the sky.”

“There is a candle in your heart, ready to be kindled. There is a void in your soul, ready to be filled. You feel it, don’t you?”

“Be empty of worrying. Think of who created thought! Why do you stay in prison When the door is so wide open?”

 

CAPTURE: Explorations with Glass (July 2014) from AMIR JAFFER on Vimeo.

Four dancemakers take Google Glass for a spin. Around San Francisco, we capture dancers, and, for the first time, we gaze through dancers’ eyes. As the debate around high-tech invasion of privacy rages, in the home of the tech revolution, our dancers explore the power and intimacy of Glass.

Choreographers: Dexandro “D” Montalvo, Milissa Payne Bradley, Lauren B., Robert Dekkers
Music Composer: Daniel Berkman
Cinematographer and Editor: Amir Jaffer
Executive Producer: Ballet to the People.

© 2014 Ballet to the People. All Rights Reserved.

Present Moment ~ Perfect Timing ….I release from within my mind.


   

AT THE HEART OF THE MATTER IN MY WORLD TODAY»>
 July 5, 2014
Be Free from Unhealthy Relationships
From Be Free from Unhealthy Relationships On-Line Course

by Rhonda Findling 

The following is an excerpt from the “Be Free from Unhealthy Relationships” on-line course. If you would like to take the entire course, click here

If you want to be free from unhealthy relationships, then the first step is not to call, text, e-mail or even Facebook a person that you: 

· Have broken up with or has broken up with you 

· Have determined is abusive 

· Are highly attracted to but they are not returning your level of interest (for whatever reason) 

· Have an unhealthy connection or relationship with 

· Is presently in your life but you’re trying to not act needy with 

When you contact someone you’re not hearing from or trying to let go of, there can be a pleasurable rush of adrenaline from the anticipation of seeing them, hearing their voice or reading their message. But this rush is just a temporary fix, which you may have to pay a tremendous price for. 

Even if the person does respond positively when you contact them, it may be momentarily thrilling or electrifying, but soon the anguish will return, because the problem is still there. Nothing has really changed. You’re still not a couple or the person remains emotionally unavailable. You’ll just have to start detaching all over again, doubling your efforts. 

If you’ve ended the relationship because someone was doing something that you experienced as hurtful or refused to tolerate any longer, contacting them would take away your credibility for the boundary you set. By initiating a contact you would also be colluding with the behavior that you already told them was unacceptable. 

Impulsivity 

When you contact someone you’re trying not to act needy with, it’s often impulsive. Acting on impulse can make life exciting and dramatic but it can also put you at risk because you are not reflecting on whether it’s a productive behavior. You’re not thinking of the future and consequences. You’re just acting in the moment. 

So if you’re thinking of making a contact, take time to reflect. Sit on your feelings. Endure your anxiety. Don’t just do something because you feel like it. There could be disastrous effects if you do.

Call people in your support system to discuss any impulsive urges that come over you- whether to see, e-mail, call, or text them. Discuss and process your feelings with safe reliable people Remember that feelings do pass. Feelings are only temporary, which is why it’s important to hang in there even when the urge to contact them feels unbearable. 

You have to do whatever it takes to endure urges to make a contact and move past them. As you do this more and more, you will feel yourself gaining emotional strength. 

Clinging 

Clinging is any behavior that demonstrates holding on, not letting go. This can be exemplified by activities ranging from a compulsive phone call, text, or e-mail when they haven’t responded to any of your previous contacts. Contacting someone who is not reciprocating your interest, or has rejected you is a form of clinging. The urge to cling can be irresistible. You know with your rational mind that your behavior isn’t appropriate, but you are driven by a compulsion you feel you can’t control. You may experience actual discomfort when you don’t carry out the compulsive act. 

It’s essential to remember that clinging behavior causes most people to distance themselves even further. If someone has issues about intimacy your clinging will make them feel closed in and claustrophobic. They may feel that they have no room to breathe from your relentless trying to get them to prove that they’re not going to leave you. Your clinging also makes you look emotionally hungry making them feel that they’ll have to endlessly supply you with reassuring love which will scare them off. 

It’s human nature to have a hard time falling in love with someone who’s bombarding them with phone calls, texts or e-mails. A clinging person doesn’t leave someone a chance to long and yearn for them. They are so available another person doesn’t have the space to fantasize about or miss them, which unfortunately is sometimes what falling in love, is all about. 

Why clinging is not productive 

There are people whose psychological problems prohibit them from having a relationship. These people are married to their pathology. Your chasing them will not break through their defenses, resistances and impairment. 

Sometimes their lack of response or reciprocating is not even about you. It’s truly about them. It doesn’t make a difference because no matter who it’s about; they just can’t do it. They can’t be there for you. You must face the truth of their unavailability so you can let them go and move on. Bottom line, you can’t force another person’s feelings, motivation for relationship, or emotional health no matter how many rules and programs you follow or implement. 

In fact if you don’t chase them around you’ll get an opportunity to see what they do when they don’t get any prompts or reminders from you. 

Action steps: What you can do when you want to cling 

· Go on dating sites online. It will also show you the abundance of people out there. You might also meet someone new who is even better than your ex or a person you’re trying to let go of. 

· Distract yourself - do whatever it takes to not think about your ex or a person you’re trying to let go of even if it feels counterintuitive. 

· Call someone in your support system. 


Writing exercises 

-Think of a time you were clinging to someone you were in love with. What were you feeling? What was behind the clinging? Was there another action you could have taken to not cling? 

-What does it feel like to show someone that you have been clinging to that you are now independent? Does it feel empowering? 

Action step/ Writing Exercise: 

·The next time you feel insecure or lonely, try not to reach out to the emotionally unavailable person you are currently attached to. Instead, see how you get through it on your own. Write about your feelings that come up in your journal. 

·Try to imagine life without the stress of an emotionally unavailable person’s confusing behavior. Get to know how it feels to have emotional space free of them. Write about your feelings in your journal. 
·Visualize yourself in a relationship with someone who’s sure of their love for you. Someone who makes you feel secure. Someone who has never disappointed or betrayed you. Describe your relationship in your journal? What is that person like? How do you feel with them? 

Spiritual Tip #5: Surrendering To What Is 

If you’re trying to hold onto someone even though you know it’s a hopeless situation then you are resisting the inevitable. When it’s time for someone to go you can’t fight it. The relationship time with them has passed, even if it hurts. Surrender to what is. 


 


 


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TO THIS DAY… and forever more I LOVE pork chops because of this wonderful profound video and how the story has touched my heart.., 

A VIDEO ABOUT GROWING UP …NOT ONE OF THE NORM

This is one of the most powerful video’s I have ever witnessed in many years. .

As I watched tears began streaming down my face not out of sadness for the childhood similar to the descriptions here.

Nor memories of old wounds and  less than happy days long forgotten having turned those old lemons into light…

My tears fell as a companion to the truth communicated still today in 2013 with our youth.

Only this generation speaks in ways  using shame based labels,unkindness,creating a  separateness  that’s  killing are teens..

Unable to bear the responses of their peers ..

When faced with the experience of  being in  community with someone different than us.    And  speaks  to just how little things have changed over the span of my lifetime.

Especially for kids who live outside of the norm and those that are allowed to treat them with such unkindness.

It’s the adults that must change if we hope to change anything at all. Each adult must create a different outcome though action ~ behaviors each day.

Nothing will change if you choose to look away in silence although both choices give voice to who you really are in the world.

Like it or not this is what your children see and it’s how they will treat others, Not based on  what you may tell them to do …


Children learn watching what adults do it stays with their young minds and hearts. So I have no interest in telling you what to do to create a change here..

It’s up to you right now for no matter what you do it sends a message that you and you alone live with each day of your life.  And that’s not for me to judge I only hope to provide information that may give way to new  conversations,opportunities to choose differently even if all you do is read this article.  Change has already begun to occur through the of willingness of all involved here.

Musings on life…

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I came across this saved it a few years back. 

And wanted to share …

The Greatest Life Teaching       
By Jafree Ozwald   
www.EnlightenedBeings.com  

What is the greatest teaching in life?  It’s the one that will instantly open your mind, enlighten your soul, and transform your heart into a trusting ball of love the moment you let it in.  Of all the thousands of enlightening teachings to choose from in this multidimensional Universe, there is one that is light years beyond them all.  If you ignored this one simple teaching today from your life, you’d be removing the key to experiencing your soul and your ability to live your life’s purpose.  Living without this one golden nugget of wisdom that you’re going to receive today, your life will feel like a constant struggle, which is often empty, desperate and meaningless. 

The great golden life teaching you most need to learn is this.  Know how to remain at peace, centered in your truth, and intimately connected to the divine trusting loving God-source, no matter what is happening in your outer world.   It’s not that hard to do when you’ve learned how to trust life and truly surrender your ego.  Once you get this one, it feels like winning the super powerball jackpot every single day!  You’ll feel a mountain of confidence beneath your every step, and be unscathed by others judgments and opinions.  Nothing that happens in the media of this world will frighten you in any way when you are rooted in Source.  You instantly become a spiritual leader for your entire community, who need your peaceful expansive light ness to be a living example for them to guide them back home. 

  To root yourself in the most peaceful infinite Source inside you, you must first embrace and transcend all the suffering in your life.  Realize that each experience of suffering is just an attachment to a thought from the past.  That is all that it truly is.  Once the thought is released there is only this divine presence here to bathe in again and again.  By naturally finding this effortless state of inner calm, you will realize without a doubt that you are the God Source and can manifest, create and accomplish anything you desire in life.

You will quickly learn how to remain intimately and infinitely connected with this sweet soulful experience by practicing one thing.  Letting everything be as it is.  Let go of your life and the life of the world around you.  It is always changing and to attach your mind to it is becoming attached to a dead thing.  The only thing that is alive is this present moment.  When you’ve discovered this, you’ve found the difference between creating success and suffering in your everyday life. 

The secret to true inner peace is finding what is REAL and attaching yourself to it, instead of to the mind.  The mind is not real; it fluctuates with ideas and experiences.  What is real is what does not change.  It is the constant ever present awareness that is at the core of you!  It provides you with the ability to conquer any demon in your path.  No matter how big it is, every negative force will fall before you when you have established just one deep root in it, and true inner peace is the natural by-product.

 It takes tremendous courage embrace your suffering in all its flavors and work though all the past karma you’ve created.  Life is pulverizing you daily with distractions.  Your job is not to make excuses that keep you stuck in your ego trip and to find where is your strongest root source of peace within your being.  When you discover it, your life becomes a genuine flow of lightness, laughter and love all the time! 

"Only he who has courage is a true living being. One who has no courage is like a dead man, even though he lives." ~ Mahavatar Babaji

True inner peace is not just a lack of conflict; it is the sweet effervescent blissful connection to the spiritual source of your being.  It is a state of absolute allowing, where you become as passive, powerful and pervasive as the unbounded sky. This is the deepest truth of who you really are. To find it you cannot add anything extra onto your already busy life; you must simply release whatever is unnecessary and deeply let go of all those limiting thoughts about who you believe you are.  When your ego trip becomes less entertaining than the infinite source of spiritual bliss, then the greatest experience of life will find you.  Yet, you must practice letting go of the mind, every moment, on the deepest of levels, if you want to experience true freedom.  You cannot lie to the Universe for that is merely lying to yourself.

  This divine inner peace can only be found by looking deeply within at your patterns and seeing them so you can step beyond them the next time they arise.  By meditating on what IS, letting everything be as it is, the divine totality of existence shows itself to you and only then will you learn how to truly relax.  This is where the divine aspect of inner peace is found.

20 THINGS TO START DOING IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS By Shanka Herath

1.  FREE YOURSELF FROM NEGATIVE PEOPLE.
Spend time with nice people who are smart, driven and likeminded.  Relationships should help you, not hurt you.  Surround yourself with people who reflect the person you want to be.  Choose friends who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you – people who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it.  Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you.  When you free yourself from negative people, you free yourself to be YOU – and being YOU is the only way to truly live.
2.  LET GO OF THOSE WHO ARE ALREADY GONE.
The sad truth is that there are some people who will only be there for you as long as you have something they need.  When you no longer serve a purpose to them, they will leave.  The good news is, if you tough it out, you’ll eventually weed these people out of your life and be left with some great people you can count on.  We rarely lose friends and lovers, we just gradually figure out who our real ones are.  So when people walk away from you, let them go.   Your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you.  It doesn’t mean they are bad people; it just means that their part in your story is over.
3.  GIVE PEOPLE YOU DON’T KNOW A FAIR CHANCE.
When you look at a person, any person, remember that everyone has a story.  Everyone hasgone through something that has changed them, and forced them to grow.  Every passing face on the street represents a story every bit as compelling and complicated as yours.  We meet no ordinary people in our lives.  If you give them a chance, everyone has something amazing to offer.  So appreciate the possibility of new relationships as you naturally let go of old ones that no longer work.  Trust your judgment.  Embrace new relationships, knowing that you are entering into unfamiliar territory.  Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet someone that might just change your life forever.
4.  SHOW EVERYONE KINDNESS AND RESPECT.
Treat everyone with kindness and respect, even those who are rude to you – not because they are nice, but because you are.  There are no boundaries or classes that define a group of people that deserve to be respected.  Treat everyone with the same level of respect you would give to your grandfather and the same level of patience you would have with your baby brother.  People will notice your kindness.
5.  ACCEPT PEOPLE JUST THE WAY THEY ARE.
In most cases it’s impossible to change them anyway, and it’s rude to try.  So save yourself from needless stress.  Instead of trying to change others, give them your support and lead by example.
6.  ENCOURAGE OTHERS AND CHEER FOR THEM.
Having an appreciation for how amazing the people around you are leads to good places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places.  So be happy for those who are making progress.  Cheer for their victories.  Be thankful for their blessings, openly.  What goes around comes around, and sooner or later the people you’re cheering for will start cheering for you.
7.  BE YOUR IMPERFECTLY PERFECT SELF.
In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, find the courage to keep being your awesome self.  And when they laugh at you for being different, laugh back at them for being the same.  Spend more time with those who make you smile and less time with those who you feel pressured to impress.  Be your imperfectly perfect self around them.  We are not perfect for everyone, we are only perfect for those select few people that really take the time to get to know us and love us for who we really are.  And to those select few, being our imperfectly perfect self is what they love about us.
8.  FORGIVE PEOPLE AND MOVE FORWARD.
Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate.  Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.”  It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.”  Forgiveness is the remedy.  It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened.  It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life.  Remember, the less time you spend hating the people who hurt you, the more time you’ll have to love the people who love you.
9.  DO LITTLE THINGS EVERY DAY FOR OTHERS.
Sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts.  You can’t be everything to everyone, but you can be everything to a few people.  Decide who these people are in your life and treat them like royalty.
10. PAY ATTENTION TO WHO YOUR REAL FRIENDS ARE.
As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones.  Remember, life is kind of like a party.  You invite a lot of people, some leave early, some stay all night, some laugh with you, some laugh at you, and some show up really late.  But in the end, after the fun, there are a few who stay to help you clean up the mess.  And most of the time, they aren’t even the ones who made the mess.  These people are your real friends in life.  They are the ones who matter most.
11. ALWAYS BE LOYAL. 
True love and real friendship aren’t about being inseparable. These relationships are about two people being true to each other even when they are separated.  When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option, but a priority.  Loyalty is everything.
12. STAY IN BETTER TOUCH WITH PEOPLE WHO MATTER TO YOU.
In human relationships distance is not measured in miles, but in affection.  Two people can be right next to each other, yet miles apart.  So don’t ignore someone you care about, because lack of concern hurts more than angry words.  Stay in touch with those who matter to you.  Not because it’s convenient, but because they’re worth the extra effort.  Remember, you don’t need a certain number of friends, just a number of friends you can be certain of.  Paying attention to these people is a priority.
13. KEEP YOUR PROMISES AND TELL THE TRUTH.
If you say you’re going to do something, DO IT!  If you say you’re going to be somewhere, BE THERE!  If you say you feel something, MEAN IT!  If you can’t, won’t, and don’t, then DON’T LIE.  It’s always better to tell people the truth up front.  Don’t play games with people’s heads and hearts.  Don’t tell half-truths and expect people to trust you when the full truth comes out; half-truths are no better than lies.  Remember, love and friendship don’t hurt.  Lying, cheating and screwing with people’s feelings and emotions hurts.  Never mess with someone’s feelings just because you’re unsure of yours.  Always be open and honest.
14. GIVE WHAT YOU WANT TO RECEIVE.
Don’t expect what you are not willing to give.  Start practicing the golden rule.  If you want love, give love.  If you want friends, be friendly.  If you want money, provide value.  It works.  It really is this simple.
15. SAY WHAT YOU MEAN AND MEAN WHAT YOU SAY.
Give the people in your life the information they need, rather than expecting them to know the unknowable.  Information is the grease that keeps the engine of communication functioning.  Start communicating clearly.  Don’t try to read other people’s minds, and don’t make other people try to read yours.  Most problems, big and small, within a family, friendship, or business relationships, start with bad communication.
16. ALLOW OTHERS TO MAKE THEIR OWN DECISIONS.
Do not judge others by your own past.  They are living a different life than you are.  What might be good for one person may not be good for another.  What might be bad for one person might change another person’s life for the better.  Allow people to make their own mistakes and their own decisions.
17. TALK A LITTLE LESS, AND LISTEN MORE.
Less advice is often the best advice.  People don’t need lots of advice, they need a listening ear and some positive reinforcement.  What they want to know is often already somewhere inside of them.  They just need time to think, be and breathe, and continue to explore the undirected journeys that will eventually help them find their direction.
18. LEAVE PETTY ARGUMENTS ALONE.
Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right.  There are many roads to what’s right.  And most of the time it just doesn’t matter that much.
19. IGNORE UNCONSTRUCTIVE, HURTFUL COMMENTARY.
No one has the right to judge you.  They might have heard your stories, but they didn’t feel what you were going through.  No matter what you do, there will always be someone who thinks differently.  So concentrate on doing what you know in your heart is right.  What most people think and say about you isn’t all that important.  What is important is how you feel about yourself.
20. PAY ATTENTION TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF.
One of the most painful things in life is losing yourself in the process of loving others too much, and forgetting that you are special too.  When was the last time someone told you that they loved you just the way you are, and that what you think and how you feel matters?  When was the last time someone told you that you did a good job, or took you someplace, simply because they know you feel happy when you’re there?  When was the last time that ‘someone’ was YOU?

Self Care ….Stop in the name of LOVE

I thought this was an excellent article about taking care of Me, Myself and I.
And very timely as I”m going to begin a weekly self wellness drop in clinic this month.
When I’m in the Bay Area look for also will be coming soon to Palm Springs and South Lake Tahoe soon.
Intentional Self Wellness,healing and love circle..
More info coming soon.


Working for social change? Make self-care a priority
Posted by Pamela Dicent on April 16, 2014

Photo credit: Oliver Hoffmann, Shutterstock
When you focus so much on changing the world every day, it’s easy to forget the small things you need to do to take care of yourself.

Self-care is about taking the time to focus on your own well-being so that you are emotionally, mentally, and physically energized around your personal and work life. In the past, I’ve gone through periods where I am super busy at and outside of work, and wake up wondering why I’m feeling fatigued, emotionally drained, or overwhelmed. And then after stepping back and looking at the bigger picture I’ve realized that it’s because I haven’t stopped to focus on myself.

Here are four tips to keep you on track in creating your own space for self-care:

Find your self-care network.

“You can do it all yourself, but you don’t have to.” Surprisingly enough, I pulled this quote out of an Ikea catalog right around the start of the new year. It immediately made me think about one of my most important support networks – my friends – and how they’ve given it a deeper meaning for me (beyond room decoration tips). One of them recently started an email thread where we can all share tips for self-care in the form of healthy food recipes, exchange updates about accomplishing goals, and check in since some of us live in different states and aren’t always able to connect.

I’ll admit that I still haven’t tried any of the healthy meals they’ve sent photos of, but I feel inspired by how much and what they are accomplishing, and their passion for what they do. It keeps me motivated and accountable to myself, and them, to really make sure I am taking time out to focus on myself and my ambitions. It also helps me stay connected to the group of people who guide and encourage me when I need it most.

Start building your own self-care network by getting in touch with a few friends or colleagues who you can relate to and feel supported by. You don’t always need to talk about work, but maybe you have a common interest you’d like to pursue like finally reading books on your to-do list, or just want to set aside time for brunch once a month to catch up. Connect with each other at a pace that works for you and focus on what you feel is most important.

Develop a new hobby or talent – or rekindle an old one.

There is more to you than who you are at work! Hobbies and talents can help you discover what you’re truly passionate about and are great ways to relieve stress by doing something that you find fun and interesting. After finally getting used to my schedule following a new job and moving last summer, I spent a while trying to figure out what I could do with my free time. I wanted to be a part of something that was challenging, available on a flexible (and affordable) basis, and fun! Ultimately, I decided to continue taking Italian language classes again after a four-year hiatus.

Now, nearly three months later, I’m still excited each week to attend class and work on a skill that’s just for my own personal development and interest. Yes, it can be difficult to complete assignments after a long day at work and really stay focused in class when there is so much happening around me, but it helps me escape from the stress of work and reminds me that there is more that I want to learn and do outside of my job! Two great resources to check out for free/low cost classes and developing new skills are Coursera and Meetups.

Learn how to identify and nurture your needs.

I recently attended a training on Adaptive Leadership, which provides individuals from a range of sectors with the tools they need to adapt to and prevent challenges through various levels of observation, reflection, and feedback.

How did this training help me? It made me realize that I need to take time out each week to really reflect on my work and the ways I approach it. I’ve finally embraced the fact that I feel less stressed when I have a sense of control. Taking time to look at the bigger picture each week has helped to reduce the anxiety I used to get when I would look at the long to-do lists and priorities for coming weeks. It’s also helped me to think more carefully about what I want my days and weeks to look like and what it takes to get there, so that when there are things outside of my control, I can manage it in a more productive, panic-free way.

Identify your needs by taking time out each week to reflect on your most difficult moments. Ask yourself: What made this a challenging situation for me? What changes do I need make to manage this or other challenges more effectively? And, what are the steps I need to take to really apply these changes? The more you look to yourself and how you approach your work, the better you will become at identifying your needs and making the right decisions in times of crisis. And it always helps to get feedback from someone you trust to help you think about your approach and identify areas of growth you may not be able to see on your own.

Try as much as you can to take a break and set boundaries.

This is perhaps the most common piece of advice when it comes to self-care because it’s true: you need to set aside time away from work.

Ever have that moment where you look at the clock and realize that you’ve been crossing off items from your to-do list or responding to a last minute emergency for the past three or four hours without pause? It’s not a surprise that this is a common way of working in the public sector. We usually have very personal connections to our causes and are extremely passionate about what we do. Not to mention, there is a greater need for the services we provide than we can often keep up with within a typical workweek.

Here’s how I take a break:

I try to make the most out of a hectic day by only checking my email while at work since most of the time, checking email while I’m at home only adds to my stress. It also reinforces my working hours with colleagues. We’re in a world where everyone is constantly connected via phone and email, and it’s easy to develop the habit of responding to every email or call you get, no matter what the time of day. But, this can blur the boundaries between work and personal time and set up the expectation that you constantly focus on work, even when you shouldn’t have to.

I also make it a point to step away from my desk for 5-10 minutes to get my energy flowing. I work at two different offices each week, so sometimes this means catching up with colleagues or students who I haven’t had the chance to speak with. Or going outside for some fresh air and sunlight.

And finally, I always use my vacation time. It’s like hitting pause on the long days/weeks and I’ve found, really important to prevent burnout. If you feel guilty about taking time off, plan ahead (giving your team as much notice as possible) and let your team know when/if you will be available.

If you are still feeling guilty, ask yourself, “Can I truly continue to be productive and energetic at work without taking a significant break?” Really think about this. Just because you’re in the office, doesn’t mean that you’re operating at your best. The people and communities who benefit from your work need you to take care of yourself first and be at the top of your game before you can focus on supporting them.

What are other ways you care for yourself to stay grounded and energized around your cause?

Pamela Dicent is the Assistant Director of Exploring Leadership at Coro New York Leadership Center where she empowers high school students to create meaningful change in their school communities. When she’s not at work, you can find her planning her next getaway or working on her Italian skills.

There is a Rhythm to your life…

Dear Murai

Seems much longer that just last December you left us for greater adventure’s . The ways you lived your life so touched the heart’s of so many.  I so miss our phone chats and late night emails such a beautiful vibrant intentional soul.

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Rhythms of the Heart is a film tribute to Amsterdam collage artist Victor IV A.K.A. Bulgar Finn. 

Here’s the link to view the film .https://vimeo.com/53692732

A project born out of a recent invitation to embrace her Life living in the moment  in extraordinary ways = Whole~Healed~Healthy

  I was asked to sing vocals for the film and in doing so some extraordinary messages from spirit spoke to me.  

A story of  two artists,shared passions embraced with a little  

willingness  n time.

I  became deeply aware  that crossed paths connections~`communications  speak to matters of  the heart.

Two artists  willing to share the present moment through similar eyes that give way to a sharing of the soul.  

Perhaps long forgotten over time come to life again forever changing lives. 

As my life now forever changed out of  the willingness of a man I will never meet. 

Life has the potential in the way you choose each present moment  aware ,awake alive creating a  rhythm unique to the soul. The art of being human suddenly connects  our collective  lives . Hearts beat as one lives our changed in beautiful extraordinary ways..

I was struck with how a brief connection of two kindred spirits artists living  passionate lives yet in separate worlds.

A crossing of  paths years ago gave way to  8 letters a correspondence of the heart.

 The message  that comes through for me is this.

When we are willing to embrace life in the present moment choosing to live in the now. Free of yesterday nor lost in tomorrow. 

We are able to experience a  sacredness shared moments in  life that nourish and feed  the soul. 

 Two  people  an example of living fully present to life taking the time to share a passion for art in very organic ways.

  Doing so without fear or reservations about how they might be regarded by others a simple connection of hearts 

They create a powerful energy that can never die even though both no longer can we reach out and touch.                                           

They both live on out of a desire to tell her story a short film about Muari’s  connection with an American artist Bulgar Finn living in Amsterdam at the time.

I wonder if he had any idea  his willingness to share a part of his life in such a tangible way all those years ago.

 Would forever give voice to his spirit allowing  the rhythm of his  heart to continue touching lives long after his would end.

In composing these works of art  8 handwritten letters, collages of the heart  a correspondence with Muari he  maintained over a period of time .

Keeping  there  connection alive even today..

I realized the gift in a lost art form as email and text message  has become the most used method  of communication today..

I was inspired to write in an article below  and I hope my words might create a spark doing  the same for you.

May you take the time to sit down and write that special someone a letter from your heart..

You might begin by writing a love letter to yourself  ….yes a letter  to a very important person in your life.

  Me Myself and I.      Give yourself the gift of Love 

May you to be so bold as to address it, stamp and all and  mail it to yourself..  

Opening it and really taking the time to nourish~encourage~celebrate that person whom you see in the mirror each day..


Life Letters from the Heart….by Mark M. Estrada

An invitation to embrace your life 

I was struck with the incredible power and voice the letters still have after all these years. 

Something that can not be  captured via phone,lap top or video in the same ways nor as intimate or personal. 

With emails  and text now the familiar method of communication in  the world today. 

My friend how beautiful that when you read his words ….they are and will always be his words.. his breath once danced over paper

Every letter,curve,dotted or forgotten crossed T his fingertips to  pen and paper held in his hand.   The oils of his skin integrated to the paper you now hold in your hand.

His spirit ~essence~soul print still very much alive through pen,paper his
words speak to the ways he embraced and shared his  life. 

To live  life  in such a way having your paths cross forever changed yours. 

His letters a gift of life that will always speak to you  , his words a gift of the heart that will always beat  , his willingness to share colors, canvas,artistry for  life a gift of the soul that can  never die.

For with every letter ,every word,every line  and with every page the relationship comes to life again,and again.

Allowing the sacred  rhythm of the heart to beat once more, souls connected  through this age old art form a communication of heart.

Through the willingness of  one … hand..  fingertips … .. pen .. paper

A doorway opens to the rhythms of the heart and a sacred  relationship comes to life once again. 

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